Well, my first thought was "I can't imagine how you have lived like that for all these years." I sincerely praise you for living in a what seems like "loveless M" for all these years for your children. I understand not wanting to D, however, I would say that you need to up the DB'ing in hopes that you can rekindle your M. I cannot imagine living like you are for the rest of your life. I guess the best thing right now would be to start DB'ing and see what transpires with W and her all of a sudden talking D. See if she continues to bring it up or where she is going to go w/ your M.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10