PS - It is a question of letting go of the rope. Actually, easier to do when you are living separately. COntinue to work on yourself. Remember that 'your enemy is your soul's best friend'. Dealing with the things that upset you can force you to address the things in you that need working on.
This is not to defend your h's lying and manipulative behaviour, but to control how it affects you and your response to it.
The next few weeks will probably be tough, and then I hope you will start to reap the benefits of not being in this destructive cycle with your h.
