I know what you mean about back firing, I kicked my H out hoping he would see sense as my tears weren’t working and then he wanted to go.
I just don’t know what to do. The reason I detach is for my own sanity. Not sure how you get back to where you were, I don’t believe you can I guess it has to start as something new. I agree with Nugget part of my problem is my need to control and when I can’t control I get angry.
Also this is my new motto.
"Do you want to be RIGHT or do you want to be LOVED???"
I am in such a catch 22. After looking at my part in the breakdown I see that I can be real cold and so now I am trying to be nice but I just don’t see him, I have not seen him since 1 September. A couple of emails back and forth but that’s it, so I might just be ready to go to work and see if he suggests a coffee or anything but no matter what I will be nice and friendly as he will need to do more washing in the future and I am hoping that we can develop some sort of friendship that may lead on to more, I know it sounds so silly as I am not his friend I am his wife, but if he is getting sweet from OW and I am cold that just makes it easier for him to move on, I am hoping to put me back in the picture. – If I have this wrong anyone please correct / advise me.
