If I could just treat him the way I treat my friends, I believe I can stabilize my emotions a little better.
Absolutely. Work on friendship first and foremost. It really does need to be like starting a new relationship. Basically you are rebuilding a new house on old property and you have to start from the ground and work up.
Originally Posted By: the girl
The silly thing is that I am agonizing over him moving in, when I have two more weeks without him here. Really, anything can change in that time frame.
Yes. You are so smart! That's why you cannot have expectations. That is why you must go slow, allow enough distance for both of you and focus on friendship. Even if he changes his mind and decides he doesn't want to come back (or you change your mind and don't want him back), for you and your children be FRIENDS!!! There is always a chance the time is just not right now. If it isn't, that doesn't mean it won't occur in the future. There are many more reasons for you two to eventually be back together. No matter what happens... be friends.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
