Hi all-- It's great to get to this page and hear all of you going through what I am. My H dropped the bomb about a month ago, said he was in love with a coworker and wanted a divorce. No discussion, despite 18 years of marriage, two kids, and more cats than strictly necessary. Since he's always been a "do the right thing" kind of guy, this couldn't be just an affair, it had to be The Love That Ate Cleveland. He's been living with her since then. Oh, did I mention he just turned 49 and had lost his job in February? But, he stressed, this is NOT a MLC, this is True Love at long long last! I've been following D'Busting and doing a fine job of it, if I do say so. However, now he is telling his family that the kids and I are "fine" with his new relationship, and the separation has been fairly untraumatic! How do I continue with this program and not let him use it as an excuse to do what he's doing??
