Wow, Hope. That is so true. First of all, what you described about how it all started... same thing in my sitch.
As for them fighting bottom, the hitting... I think you have a point. And I need to remember that in my case if I start to cave on forcing H to move out.
Anyway, I am so encouraged to see the progress your H is making.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track