I would imagine that yes, sufferers of MLC will also separate a bit from their children. Sad, but true. They love them, of course, but see them as a hinderance. Also, I am sure like my H, your W knows you will pick up the slack. Its a given and of course we would never 180 from that. They know this too. Perfect example, we were both supposed to go out tonight (separately) and our sitter couldn't make it.
H: Is ___ coming? What time are you leaving?
Me: She couldn't come.
H: Oh ok.
Then he proceeds to get in the shower and goes out.
They know they are in good hands and that relieves their guilt. I am just sad that the kids are the ones who suffer along with us. If I could take all the suffering, I would.
And yes, my 35 yr old husband has been doing 'young' things lately. Wearing different clothes and things like that. He (over a 2 yr span) has lost 150 pounds and is very confident now. I think his MLC and our marriage hitting a rocky spot all happened at once.
DD is happier again this morning. She made us both breakfast, and we will be going to her friends birthday party later this arvo, then we will pop up to the shops and do some grocery shopping and have our Sunday Kiddchino and muffin at Gloria Jeans (while I read the Sunday paper).
It is a given that the LBS will always be there for the kids. I do appreciate the time I am having with her, without W. Also, even during our happiest as a family, when W and myself would be out with DD, somedays there was conflict with DD "working us over", especially when she wanted something. I find that the two of us (without W) is a much more pleasant experience, funny that.
Hey, I nearly lost my swimmers at the wave pool yesterday. I need to get a new pair as the old ones are way to big. DD was grabbing hold of them as a huge wave came by, and nearly pulled them off completley. And as you know kids, she spent the next hour trying to pull them off. The embarrassing thing was there was a whole "school" of kids with goggles swimming around me, I hope I haven't scarred them for life
Hey, get yourself some new hot swim shorts for the next time W goes with you. Glad DD perked up. It is mostly tiredness when they melt at bedtime, but like your D, mine will come up with stuff out of the blue that you can tell was on their minds. So sad.
I wore a really tight fitting t-shirt yesterday, before we left for the pools, W glanced, then could not look at me whilst she spoke to me. Does your H do the same.
I find that she try's so hard not to look at me. It is annoying when you are having a conversation, and she continues to do what she is doing whilst still conversing with me.
She also has trouble being near me, sort of like "out of sight out of mind". That is one of the reasons why I think she keeps herself sooooo busy, because she doesn't want any time to think about what she is doing to our family or to me.
Andy! Last week I went out. Came downstairs in a smaller sized skirt and tight black shirt with strappy sandals. Sounds slutty, but I pulled it off without looking that way. I saw H's complete double take when I came down around the corner. He was so busted. Of course, not a word. I have lost a ton of weight this summer, and everyone (work, friends, family) gush about how great I look, not a word from H.
And yes, H does the same thing, stays occupied because goodness forbid they stop and face what they have done. They would rather stay busy and blame us. Much easier on them.
I saw H's complete double take when I came down around the corner. He was so busted. Of course, not a word. I have lost a ton of weight this summer, and everyone (work, friends, family) gush about how great I look, not a word from H.