Andy! Last week I went out. Came downstairs in a smaller sized skirt and tight black shirt with strappy sandals. Sounds slutty, but I pulled it off without looking that way. I saw H's complete double take when I came down around the corner. He was so busted. Of course, not a word. I have lost a ton of weight this summer, and everyone (work, friends, family) gush about how great I look, not a word from H.
And yes, H does the same thing, stays occupied because goodness forbid they stop and face what they have done. They would rather stay busy and blame us. Much easier on them.