I would imagine that yes, sufferers of MLC will also separate a bit from their children. Sad, but true. They love them, of course, but see them as a hinderance. Also, I am sure like my H, your W knows you will pick up the slack. Its a given and of course we would never 180 from that. They know this too. Perfect example, we were both supposed to go out tonight (separately) and our sitter couldn't make it.
H: Is ___ coming? What time are you leaving?
Me: She couldn't come.
H: Oh ok.
Then he proceeds to get in the shower and goes out.
They know they are in good hands and that relieves their guilt. I am just sad that the kids are the ones who suffer along with us. If I could take all the suffering, I would.
And yes, my 35 yr old husband has been doing 'young' things lately. Wearing different clothes and things like that. He (over a 2 yr span) has lost 150 pounds and is very confident now. I think his MLC and our marriage hitting a rocky spot all happened at once.
