Wow Val, I hope for your H's sake, he is starting to wake up.
Your H reminds me of mine more than anyone else on this board. For you H, the drugs of choice are booze and OW. For my H his drugs of choice are gambling and OW. Like yours, mine has done the back & forth thing... seemed so sincere, but could not give up OW and lied adn lied and lied to cover it up. Just plain crazy.
Anyway, I am happy to hear about his reaching out to planet Earth.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track