So, I decided I was done. Didn't see any other option. If anyone has any other ideas, please feel free to throw them at me.
J, this part hurts, no matter where you are and how strong you feel. It hurts to know that what you thought you would be doing, you will not.
This is the most sound decision that you have made. He has not changed, no matter how badly you wanted him to, he just hasn't.
There comes a point in time when you realize that you need to have the necessary closure to move on with your life. You need to be able to look back and know you gave it your all so that you can get on with things and open up that door that you have had closed for so long now.
His messages, well, I am honest abe so I will simply say it. They cracked me up. It's funny as hell to me that he used the old "I have so much on my plate right now" crap on you of all people. With how full your plate has been over the last year he had the balls to say this to you.
Bottom line J, you are going to be fine. You are a smart, funny, attractive, and wonderful woman who will have no problem on her own.
Understand that amicable may not end up working out. He is a child and will react as a child would, he already has started. Your offering to be amicable is good enough, you have put that ball in his court so it is up to him whether you stay that way or not.
Do not tolerate his bad behavior anymore, he is no more than a friend now so try and remember what you would accept from one of your friends. If he is insulting or condescending to you, send him on his merry way.
You are now in control and dictate the relationship and how it remains, not him.
It sounds odd to say it J, but I am very happy for you that you have gotten to this place now and can be happy moving forward with your life.
To be honest, I had told Jules that after reading your prior post to this about the surfing, I was fixing to lay into you if that didn't open your eyes. It obviously did so no lecture necessary.
Keep up the great work J. Remember that you are stronger than you think you are.
