Yes, I understand that I do not have much control over how the state decides what is right or wrong regarding the OM they are exposed to. But I am hoping that I have certain rights towards custody before and during the dissolution process. Here are two of the guidelines taken from CO state statutes regarding "Best interests of child" (Section 14-10-124). I have eliminated some legal mumbo-jumbo.
Determination of parenting time: In determining the best interests of the child for purposes of parenting time, the court shall consider all relevant factors, including:
Whether the past pattern of involvement of the parties with the child reflects a system of values, time commitment, and mutual support;
The ability of each party to place the needs of the child ahead of his or her own needs.
Is spending every evening with your OM when you have the custody of the kids before the marriage is dissolved reflects my W's system of values and time commitment? don't think so. Is she putting the needs of her kids before her if the OM visits her apartment just before the kids go to bed?
I just want to get these off my chest before I talk to my L. Its very hurtful and I hate to see the alien in my W, who is so different from the one I have known for 15 years.
You guys are awesome and I am following thru with your advice to protect my kids by going for the D. I never thought I would see this day where I feel good about keeping my head high in ending the M.
Its very hurtful and I hate to see the alien in my W, who is so different from the one I have known for 15 years. 