First one (a few hours after I had left the voicemail for him) was short...
Quote:
Well, I guess I'd call you cuz I just got your message and everything, umm, but I guess you don't want to take my call or whatever. But, you're done huh?(started getting angry here, and only got worse) Okay, great, wtf-ever. Thanks! Yeah, we'll be fine, we'll be friendly. Alright, bye.


He called back, starting out nice but not able to sustain that for long........
Quote:
Hey Xx. Hey, I'm sorry, I don't mean to get testy. I totally understand. But if you're done... all that sh^t blah blah blah (yes, he said blah blah blah)... but, maybe you can f'n... figure out what you're doing and... and uh........ yeah, whatever. Ya know, I was gonna be pissed, say pack your sh^t up then, cuz I'm gonna move in the house then, cuz I want my own f'n place, but... that was just me gettin pissed for a second cuz...
whatever.... nevermind, just... fine, whatever. You're done, do what ya gotta do. F***, whatever. You got the paperwork, we'll go to court. Whatever, wtf-ever. Whatever.
What the h***, I guess I got enough sh^t on my plate might as well throw that on there too, and uh....it's not really the scenario I was looking for in the long run, but yeah.... I f'd around long enough I guess, so yeah I understand.
Yeah, we're done.
F it.... I'll talk to you on a limited basis. I won't consider you the friend I thought you were, and umm, yeah, we'll do it like that. Whatever.
Thanks for being my friend through like this hard time, and uh... I do appreciate it. (was actually fairly nice with that, but right back to being a jerk) It's not exactly what I was looking for, but alright, whatever, I'll just have to f'n deal with it, wtf-ever. Yeah. Take care. Hope your life's good... Hope you... uhhh, are doing good. Bye.


It was actually very helpful to me to get those messages from him, as I was fighting anxiety before them. I was still up much of the night, but I got some laughs and I felt more and more at ease with my decision.


Me: 37
M: 14 yrs
Separated 10/06; Filed for D 12/07
Life is good.