I LOVE living alone

[forever21]

Hi all. Happy Saturday.

Wanted to leave an update since I decided to make a move with my sitch last night.

Well, I had seen enough over the last couple weeks to know that my H's actions were really just more of the same.

There are many positives happening... in fact, I had a C appt yesterday and was happy to learn he thought I was doing a REALLY great job and that I am not doing more of the same (even though I might feel like it sometimes). He pointed out that the big difference is... in the past (prior to this last year), I wasn't only working on myself but also trying to fix our M and hoping my H would change... and this time around, I am truly focusing on myself and what I can control... and I'm becoming very strong because of it. I am only gaining from all this, since my H is such good practice for me... I HAVE to be strong at boundary-setting, standing up for myself, and such.

But, my eyes are open. The signs were everywhere that H is back to his struggling ways, and is not being honest or respectful. Important point is, he's not taking action that would demonstrate he is serious about reconciling.

Stepping back and just accepting this "for now" while giving him the option to hang out with me at his next convenience, hasn't gotten me anywhere in the past. I don't want him in my life as long as he is incapable of being honest with me. Why build any sort of friendship without respect and honesty?

So, I decided I was done. Didn't see any other option. If anyone has any other ideas, please feel free to throw them at me.

I know I probably reacted a little by not giving myself at least a full day to think about this, but I'm very comfortable with what I've done.

So, what I did was text that to him... that i was done, and that I really hoped we could be friendly about this. I then left him a voicemail so he could hear my voice and know I wasn't angry, that it was just the point I reached. It would've been nice to tell him this myself in convo but I will have my chance to.

I didn't mention D. I know I am just DONE... at least with the BS, though I'm not sure he needs to know I'm anything but plain done. Wondering if when I do end up talking with him I should let him know that it IS because of his actions (both what he's doing and what he didn't do).?????

He called me back around midnight, and I let it go to voicemail. He left two messages, both of them with anger. I haven't felt any need to return a call to him based on those, and I haven't heard anything from him today. I'll post his voicemails on their own post, since this is already getting so long.