Sara's Swimming Pool

[LL44]

Have a great BBQ. Luckily I slept through the night and didn't notice that H didn't come home at all until 7am. But I slept. That's always important.

Can I borrow your raft while you are gone?

[bobelina]

Coffee, please.

[LL44]

hi bobelina. How have you been?

[bobelina]

How have I been...
...interseting. Good though.

Looked into personailty disorders as had been advised concerning my STBXW. She seems to fit the bill for NPD and a bunch of APD. Ouch.

[LL44]

Oh man, bobelina. I know what NPD is, but what is APD?

[bobelina]

Anti-Social Personality Disorder. All the Cluster B PD's are quite related, HPD (Histronic PD), BPD (Borderline PD), NPD and APD. All under the term Psychopath. Discovered that this describes my dad and brother too, and quite a few in STBXW immediate and extended family. A lot to think about and process.

It does explain her behavior over the years.

[bobelina]

Here's a lowdown on the NPD stuff:
http://survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=158555&AP=1

[delia]

[quote] [/He's not too slobbery. But he is compulsive. He won't let you stop til he passes out.
quote]

I just love this out of context.

I think I'll just topple in your pool now, Sara. I'm at lunch, at work, with a migraine, so I probably need some Red Bull, or Red Balls, or whatever that stuff is to make you all jiggity.

Maybe while I'm drifting on my crocodile floatie, I can come up with some sort of Zen way to tell STBXH that when he takes money out of my account, it bounces my checks. We should have separate accounts, of course, but I was hanging on to the fantasy of a reconciliation. Now I don't really want him. I just feel sad about the whole mess.

I want to keep on good terms with H, as I find this seems to encourage him to keep seeing the kids. One day, though, when they're all grown up, I'm going to fetch my shovel up against the side of his head.

[LL44]

"One day, though, when they're all grown up, I'm going to fetch my shovel up against the side of his head."

We all have to dream, don't we?

I totally understand what you mean about hoping for reconciliation. I don't want to do anything like separate checking, legal separation, visitation stuff, because I fear it will drive us farther apart. If he brings any of it up, I will agree, I suppose, because he is the one that needs the space and time. But I am not bringing it up.

[Sara]

Hi guys. Glad to see you are out here relaxing and thinking pleasant thoughts. That's the thing to do on a Saturday.

The BBQ was very nice. It was sort of a fundraiser for Tulane Univ. They showed us around the Tampa Bay Buccaneers training facility and gave us lunch. Then the president of Tulane talked about rebuilding the University after Katrina. They suffered $650 million in losses, less than half of that insured losses. That didn't sound so big to me until another woman said, "Wow! 2/3 or a billion $ in losses!" That is a lot of money. But he was really optimistic about New Orleans' recovery, and I was happy to hear that.