When to move back in together?

[the girl]

Aud,
I wish my mom would say something like that to me:(.
I had a dear friend over last night, who was extremely upset that I am letting my H move back in without jumping thru more hoops. She thinks I am exhibiting no self esteem, no boundary setting and no self respect. She enumerated all the rotten aspects of his past year behavior, how she doesn't see how he will change, especially since I have given in and am allowing him to have his way once again.

Yes, she is right on many points (she is also a pro therapist), but the bottom line is that I want my family together. I do deserve all that good treatment, but I can't ask or expect it from him now. I tried to tell her that he is walking slowly back to us, and I have to accept that for now, for my family's sake.

She says it is going to blow up in my face. I said he can just move back out.

But now with the added stress of job loss, I can't depend on child support. We now have a major crunch in our resources. I will not put my girls in daycare. Even if I have to live through this time with a major a**hole for a H, I feel like I just have to do it. I don't have a lot of energy, mental or physical, to expend on working outside the home. All the people telling me to leave my H really have no idea what caring for 3 children under age 4 is like.

I kept telling her last night, yes, a lot is very broken in my marriage and he is not displaying much good....but it is my marriage, and it is the man I chose to be with. I am not going to waste my time thinking he should be someone else. This is my life!
The girl