Just wanted to post something as it's been a while.

There isn't much new going on really. I think last night is the first time we had a bit of a problem...

I have a habit of complaining when someone wants me to do something that I don't want to do - but I end up doing whatever it is anyways. Well, this doesn't go over well with Ceb and I don't blame him, it's something new that I've found I need to work on now but I think we could have handled the discussion about it a little better.

I wanted Ceb to stop at the grocery store for a couple of things we needed for dinner and he was going to but then traffic got really bad. I was already home so he asked me to just go out to the store instead. I decided that we could do without the things from the store but he'd decided that we couldn't. So when I said nah, I didn't want to go ... he wanted me to go. I complained but then agreed to go.

Then he was upset because he felt like he was forcing me to do something. So we discussed how it made him feel but he added "... and it makes me not want to ask you to do things so I'll just do them myself or go without and just build up all that resentment inside again..."

I asked him if that was a threat because it sure sounded like one and he said no. I guess I thought we'd agreed to work things out and that would include him changing his behaviour when necessary (ie. telling me about things instead of building up resentment) and not just me changing. Of course my mind went straight to "he's going to build up resentment and leave again...". He had to get off the phone because he was getting grumpy.

So I went off to the store, picked up some peace offerings (movies from Blockbuster and flowers ) which worked really well and we discussed our feelings when I got home and both apologized and agreed to both work on issues together.

He's never gotten flowers before so that made his day - maybe even his week.


-Calystra