MLC Wife exposing little kids to OMs

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My W's response to my email is in the following post. My only purpose to copy her response verbatim is to journal myself and in the process, illustrate how messed up a MLC's thought process can be and how ruthless they can be in dealing with someone that still promises to love them despite multiple affairs.

H,

Thank you for your email and for sharing your thoughts. While I do respect, and take into consideration your opinion regarding decisions on how to parent the kids, you must understand that by no means, am I required to follow your set of rules or standards as far as what is best for the kids or how I should live my life when the kids are in my care.

Like I told you when we last spoke, I do have the kid's best interest in mind and while I never have, nor intend to, do anything inappropriate in front of the children, I do have a right to socialize with whatever friends I want, whether I have the kids or not. I am an intelligent woman and mother who makes smart choices when it comes to the care of my children. It is appalling to me that you do not trust me enough to socialize with people who are positive influences for our kids. As I once selected you for a mate, I thought you knew me well enough to know that I only choose high quality people to associate with and I do not participate in activities around my children that would make me a poor role model for them.

You mentioned the last time we spoke that Kaya was having issues with my friend C so I took the opportunity, that you challenged me to, to discuss it with D9 and she disqualified any concerns you brought up. As a matter of fact, it is very obvious by her actions when I am with her, that she enjoys C's company as he is a clean cut, respectable person who has already raised children of his own. The point you brought up about my choice to have D5 spend her birthday with someone other than her dad, is a mute point since the girls were with me that day and regardless of who else joined us for dinner, the fact would have remained that you would not have been there. You celebrated D5's birthday with her on Sunday at her party.

I'm not sure what you meant when you said that the path you must take now is not one of choice but one of self-preservation and one that protects your kids. You obviously must deal with your own emotions however you can best do that but as far as the kids go, there is nothing to protect. They are not in danger! They never have been nor ever will be while they are in my care.

I'm sorry that the past few months have been so difficult for you and I understand your need to hold on to past memories as a coping mechanism. It is not fair, however, for you to have been giving the kids a false sense of hope, assuring them over and over again that mommy will be coming home someday. I know that the thought of our marriage being over is not something that you can easily accept but the sooner that you face reality, the sooner you can be on the road to moving forward with your own life. You are a great guy and father and you deserve to be happy. While I can no longer provide that happiness for you and have decided that the decision to end our marriage is the right one for me, I do not want there to be bitter feelings between us and hope that we can remain friends in the end. We have never fought much and there is no need to begin fighting now. I respect your attempt to make your feelings known to me in a final effort to save our marriage, however, I have decided to move on and making everything legally finalized as quickly as possible will make things easier for both of us in the end.

My intention is not to deliberately hurt you. While I know that you do not approve of some of the choices I have made recently in my life, it is not up to you to choose the path for my life or dictate the people I socialize with. I have been perfectly honest with you in stating that I do not want to be married to you any longer and am ready to move on with my life. I know that I have not yet taken the legal steps to finalize the dissolution of our marriage but please know that my delay is not because of any hesitations that I have but rather because I have been incredibly busy lately, between starting a new job and running my business, and frankly have not had the time to complete the necessary paperwork.

W