Quoting Ceberon: I have told Calystra many times that she should not blame the OW for what happened, she should blame me. There was no point in time where the OW did something that I didn't want her to do, and at many times the OW stated she didn't want to damage a marriage. I explained the marriage was over, so she shouldn't worry about it, but she definately was concerned.
I'm certain there are plenty of things Calystra could be mad at the OW about, but any of those I'm doubly responsible for. I find it very important to take the blame when it's due, and it makes me feel bad to hear blame being put on someone else when I think it's my fault.
Ok but here's the problem. OW was supposed to be my friend too but instead of even having any consideration for me at all, she jumped into bed with you at the first chance she got. I blame her for being there to do that, I blame her for taking that opportunity, I blame her for stabbing me in the back. If she was not there, it may have been someone else you chose to do that with but I doubt it. I don't think you could have done a lot of what you did without her, she was your enabler and I blame her for that. Even if it was someone else, it would have been someone I didn't know, not someone who was supposed to be my friend.
Quoting Ceberon:I would rather let that be the end of everything.
Any extra contact from this point on would just be painful for everyone involved. <snip> I just want the other R's to be gone if possible.
I definitely agree, I really try not to bring it up anymore - I'm doing good with that, no? I just need some place to vent... and this BB wins the prize.
