It absolutely does encourage me. I had an epiphany today (albeit after being told by my friends that she has been with the OP from the moment she left and likely before--as confirmed by the OP). A light went on or a switch went off--whatever the case may be--I just seem to have let go. With no expectation for her to come back or not. I don't know why, and I'm hoping it's not just numb shock. I have to do stuff for me, and the first thing I've done is told her I need my space to absorb this new info. I'll take your advice to heart. Hopefully I'll feel just as resolved when I wake up tomorrow....
"In every marriage more than a week old, there are grounds for divorce. The trick is to find, and continue to find, grounds for marriage." -- Robert Anderson
