I called the house today to talk to D11. I wanted to go get her tomorrow and spend some time together. Her Dad answered. He was home because yesterday evening, she fell in the yard and they ended up in the emergency room. She's on crutches. Her ankle is sprained. How long do you suppose it would have been til I found out had I not called? It would have been never.
Ummmm.... Amy, he has to know just how wrong keeping this from you was. Address it and let him know that should anything of this nature ever happen again you should be called at the first available moment. You are her mother whether she lives with you physically or not and he should respect you as her parent. Crap like this fires me up!!!
I didn't say anything about that though. It's just what I feel. Anyway, I asked to talk to her after telling Jeff my plans for tomorrow...I heard her saying "no" so I gathered she did not want to talk to me. So I told him that was fine, I wasn't forcing her. He handed her the phone anyway. I told her I had heard her saying she didn't want to talk to me and that was fine. I had made plans for us but I am not going to make her talk to me or anything else and she said okay so I said bye.
It's hard when we are hurt and rejected to think logically and without emotion getting involved. After some time to think... I hope you will call her back and tell her how hurtful to you and rude that was of her. I can't help thinking that she is avoiding dealing with you because she has all this mass of emotions going on inside herself. You said before that her dads drinking bothered her at one time and she has since become the enabler. My God Amy, look at what enabling him did to you .... she is just a child trying her best to deal with grown up things in a grown up way. I know this is breaking your heart but you can't watch her breakdown forming.... you gotta act. I'm not trying to tell you things you already know.... but pleading with you to intercede ASAP.... waiting for the right opportunity might be too much of a risk.
I am so sick of this. I haven't even done anything but try to make sure she took care of the stuff her Dad won't insist upon. I don't want to do this anymore. If they don't want me around why should I force myself on either of them?
[Because you are her mother and his wife.... both of which have their own thankless days.... never the less, we keep pressing on.
For that matter, all friggin 3 of them can just have a blast next weekend at S14's party. I had all kinds of fun stuff planned for D and her friend but my heart's not in it anymore. Anytime she is nice or acts like she loves me it's because I'm doing something she wants me to do. I don't even know why I try.
C'mon Amy.... you're hurt and angry. And this sounds like it came from one of the kids. You are an already mature wonderful Christian lady... this just shows how we all still have those broken, struggling hearts still crying out from within. I'm praying for strength and trying to encourage you.... I so hope this is coming across in the right way.
And if it sounds like I'm being a cry-baby, well tough sh*t. This part hurts more than I can take. I've always been very close to both of my kids and now one doesn't even want to talk to me.
Always having to be the grown up does hurt. Thankfully the Lord allows us to crawl up in his lap and be comforted because we are all his children and he is a tenderhearted father.
Sending you great big cyber bear hugs girlie..... this too shall pass.
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Psa 51:10 Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.
