Hey Pamar, I know the 'can't win' feeling all too way. H blamed me for our entire marriage, it was MY marriage, I got everything I wanted, he got nothing. I am sure you have heard it. SO hard not to respond, and list the things I have also given up and given to him.
Anyone, ditch the sexy stuff, get her nice neutral gift certificate to a spa.
Came back to say: Love the 2nd version of the poem.