Well, all I know is I have a chance to salvage the M if I wait it out. If I move back in, it's over. I will take my chances. In the long term the kids will be alright. And she is not going with somebody else. She shutting me out is probably mostly my fault. I probably had the chance of staying at home and working it out. I didn't know DB back then and messed it up royally by talking about R all the time. She has extreme anxiety about it. Heck, I still slip and that's the major cause. I'm doing better slowly. Hopefully that will alleviate her anxiety and eventually allow me to move back in.

I do understand that eating disorder is a life long struggle. However, if she can get more confidence it is easier to control. I also need her to be confident when facing with dealing of our issues. If she is down and depressed, we have no chance of ever overcoming anything.

My wife is very independent. She has a mind of her own and she wants to work out things on her own. Anyways, we'll have to see where this goes. I'm trying to keep this M Dom. I'll be separated from the kids and be a part time parent if a D happens so what's the difference from now? At least this way I have a chance to prevent it from happening.


M: 31
W: 31
M: 7 T: 8
S:4 D:2
Bomb dropped: too many to count or remember, 12/17/07 last one
S on 9/2/07
W sent off D papers 12/31/07. Me trying to live life and hope she returns one day.

My sitch:
http://tinyurl.com/3dqw93