Ok I have a question that I probably already know the answer to, I just want some opinions...
Lets say that a bank employee was looking at people's accounts without cause and sharing that information with her friends and other people who weren't bank employees. (For example: Hey, I looked at so-and-so's account and he spent almost $500 at 2 companies in the last month. I looked up those companies and they're online porn sites.. ha ha ha.)
So not only is this probably against the bank policy, it's illegal and wrong on multiple levels. And if you could get the attention of an investigator at the bank who was interested in knowing the information, would you tell or wouldn't you?
-------
Ok now that you're thinking about that... let's add some more info. Let's add that the person who is doing this is the ex-OW.
-------
So I'm not the kind of person who's vindictive or mean but I can't help but fantasize about doing these things to her. My H says that I am blaming her for something that should be completely his responsibility but I don't agree with that. I'm a nice person, I don't do this to people - but on the same hand I'm very ethical usually and will point out store/bank errors, pick up money off the street and return it to the person or a nearby place so they can return it...
To do this would upset my H because not only am I hurting the OW and I'm not being a nice person which is something that is important to him. He said that during the entire ordeal he expected me to be mean and vindictive once under my mom's influence and it surprised him when I wasn't. He also expected OW to be vindictive and mean as well whe he left but she hasn't. So in his eyes, I wouldn't be the "better" person in the sitch if I went ahead with telling.
Of course on the other hand, she's the one who did something wrong and continues to so it's not actually my fault for giving them the information in a sense. I don't know, pretty torn on the issue because of ethical/moral beliefs and emotions all mixed together.
