h just left with the kids. it didn't go great, but wasn't too bad. I am obviously in a bit of a mood about things, tried not to show it, wasn't terribly successful. told him his bonus was in and I transfered some of it to our ing acct. He got really upset about that...that we don't know what we are doing yet, why shift the money. um, hello, lets earn some interest on it until we decide what we are doing. turns out he thought it was some kind of investment acct that you can't pull out of until a specific period has passed, not our savings acct...I swear the man never listens to me. never ever ever. can't tell you how often I have gone over our accts with him.
anyway, I got irritated immediately at his irritation, and told him straight out that he had promised he would tell me before getting a lawyer, etc, so why get upset that I put some money into savings? He said he would tell me, he didn't even know what he/we were going to do, but didn't want the money unaccessable. finally he understood its a freaking savings acct, we have full access to it at any time.
once that was cleared up, things never really got better. they started out that way, ended that way, just irritation on both sides. he asked why I was acting that way, I told him I just have a lot of things on my mind. he told me he did too. best that he left then, or thereabouts. a few more other stuff talked about, but nothing R wise. I did ask about the coupon book for the car and he said he was going to take care of that bill. so either the payment is more than he told me it was, or else he is starting to remember how to write a check for himself. as far as I know he has no other acct, will know in october whether any checks clear from our acct for a car, so will know the answer to both of those things.
I wanted to say a hell of a lot more, ask a hell of a lot more. ask if he wanted to take over his amex/visa bills as well, but I didn't. I bottled any snotty/snarky/sarcastic remarks. in my current mood, that is huge.
so not great, but not as bad as it could have been.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
