Now I've done it

[nephartiti]

Kristy, I know this is hard, but you have to back off. Don't bring up your anniversary again. Just let it go. Don't call him. If there is something re: finances that absolutely must be addressed, e-mail him, but don't look for excuses to contact him. Don't push issue of OW, what he's doing, your relationship, the future, etc.

Focus on you. Don't drive by his apt. Hang out with friends, go to the movies, whatever you enjoy.

If you haven't gotten and read The Divorce Remedy, then I would recommend disappearing for a few days to do so.

There is still hope for you and your H, but you have to stop doing what you are now doing because it will push him farther away. It's time to do something different. Hang in there! You can do it. A lot of us have been in your shoes and know how scary it is. Learn from our experiences (good and bad).