When to go?

[lester]

How do you decide when to see an attorney? Things seem to be going okay now with the ups and downs but I can tell she's hiding something I don't know what. I don't want to go now and seem eager to start the ball rolling but I also don't want to get steamrolled. How do you know when the right time is to check out lawyers? Or do you wait until they say they want a D?

Any advice or just maybe some guidelines. Wife seems to be very mysterious I don't want to outright ask cuz I don't want to seem eager. Maybe if you all just say what made you decide to seek one...