King of Pain

[lester]

NCB,

On reading your post there is a couple that strike me. First, it seems that your W is pumping your son for info. While this is a sign she's curious I must warn that involving your children in ANY way in your struggles is not good. Being a child of divorced parents (coincidently with my children being about the same age I was when they did :(( ) this will make adjustment for the children very hard. I know you may have little influence over her actions but PLEASE check yourself here.

You didn't specifically say that you were telling your wife about your GALing activities so maybe I'm misspeaking. But if you are separated now then there's no point mentioning where you go... if she finds out then so be it. And since GALing is for you it doesn't really matter that she gets upset -- it shows she still cares (seems crazy given the situation, I know). But definately keep doing what you're doing, it sounds like you're on track. It's your life and whether you were a dancer before or not if you like it -- keep it up. My wife has the same complaints, "You never did that in the 10 years I've known you." To quit your activities now would confirm her suspicions that you are just trying to get her attention.

I hope this makes sense... I'm working on being coherent today