And Dave, the priest is there to help people who ask for help. I don't know if you are Catholic. We are not (well, my H is but he has rejected it), but several couples asked to meet privately with the priest while we were there. The presenting couples are available for personal discussions too. So after you hear their stories, you can approach the couple with a story similar to yours and ask how they got over resentment. That is an excellent question, and each couple would answer it differently. But they would all have answers.
