Now I've done it

[nephartiti]

I'm trying to decide whether to take this thing with the kids head on or just stay in the dark.

If I don't adress it, I will be accused of sabotage.

If I call him and tell him what he doesn't want to hear, it might lead to an altercation.

Maybe an email stating something like:

Although I think it is wonderful that you would like to spend so much time with the kids, I do not believe either are ready for an overnight stay away from home. A day trip would be lovely. You are more than welcome to visit or call them anytime. You may take them out or spend time with them here while I run errands, etc.

I don't know. Maybe the last 2 lines are overkill. I've told him this verbally more than once. He will not call me unless I call him first. Stubborn proud man. That's why i'm in the dark, to change the pattern.

OK. lay it on me. What do you all think? Dark, call, or e-mail?