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Originally Posted By: CVA
I dont know what I am going to do tomorrow. Right now, I might just tell her we are done.


Hey CVA - just wanted to check in & see what happened when you got/get home.


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Wasn't bad when I got there, I blew it up though befcore I left. Tried to have a "chat" but she just clammed up and as a result CVA did not do so well, basically got pissed and left vizibly upset with her. Basically told her I need more than she is giving me and I don't know how much longer I can be the one working on this. Also said I don't even know if she "wants" me to try, to whicj I got "uhhhhh, uhhhh". Tha( is when I said a very irritated good night and basically stormed out.

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It sounds like she down played your emotons there?

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Sorry to hear that things did not go well. Normally I would give you the typical advice of making sure to put on a better front for her and to tame your anger of the situation, yada yada yada... but I know you had said no psychobable so I am going to refrain from doing so. I am sensing you are getting to a different point anyway where this is maybe what you need to do in order to get things to a different level - whatever that level may be.
Best of luck to you as the weekend approaches...Are you doing anything fun for CVA?

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CVA -

STOP INITIATING CHATS! STOP THE CHASE! STOP PERSUING! FOCUS ON YOU! WHAT YOU ARE DOING ISN'T HELPING YOUR SITCH/GOALS! IT'S PROBABLY HURTING!

Got it?

Nomo \:\)


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Playing golf right now!


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cva, If you get pissed while playing golf, there are a lot of balls you can hit.


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YES, I KNOW!

HOWEVER, it was like an out of the body experience.

Not sure what works.

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Originally Posted By: CVA
YES, I KNOW!


Ok, good!!!

Originally Posted By: CVA
HOWEVER, it was like an out of the body experience.


Fine, we all make mistakes. Learn from it, stop it, move on.

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Not sure what works.


This is very unlikely to work.

FOCUS ON YOU!! FOCUS ON YOU!! FOCUS ON YOU!! NOT HER.

I know you know I am saying what I think you need to hear, and what will be most likely to help you and your sitch!

Nomo \:\)


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If it makes you feel any better, I kind of did the same damn thing you did. I'll stop being stupid if you will.

BD


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I'm a beautiful butterfly.
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