Oh sweety, life is beating on us right now, I hear ya)))))))))))) my post is here, with my sob story, I also came here running back, things were pretty awful for a while, i'm sort of stabilizing myself for now.
I remember the business (bar right?) and money played a part in your M's problems. I also want all of the things you mentioned, but my H isn't capable right now of offering that. During this past year I've been carrying the M on my back while my H was barely trying (he admitted to it recently) and obviously things were not right.
Sometimes, the only one who will give us our place is ourselves. Moms go over and above the call of duty, and we end up all worn out and angry. Delegate responsibilies and let some things go (my house is in a state of semi-chaos, but I won't kill myself anymore cleaning bathrooms at 11pm if they can be done the next day or so)
Are finances the reason your H isn't giving to the M? depression perhaps? My H now knows that if our M is to survive he needs to pull his weight, but something awful had to happen for him to wake up *sigh* and see how half @ss we were living.
Hugs honey)))))))))))))) will keep an eye out for you
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
