All hope is lost/help

[cat03]

there is nothing naive about having hope, the DB book always emphasizes not to loose hope even if things look bleak.

The little ones dont' have to know anything at this point, and be careful how much you tell Ds, they can either end up hating your H or be put in a hard place, find a friend to conmiserate and vent.

It is a mix blessing to work with a spouse. I agree that personal problems should not be brought up at work, it blurrs the line and it could affect your performance (ei: my H in probation, I don't txt him anymore about our personal problems, try to keep it light and about other stuff)

=============I realise that, but I don't think he does, I think he's looking for lust and no responsibilities=============
Yup, he's entering the MLC crazeland,I know it doesn 't make any sense to you, and prob it doesn't make much sense to him either, MLCs are that crazy. Do check the MLC board for such behaviour, when people in good marriages just up and leave to look for something they don't know, to fill some void they themselves are not sure of what it is.

By backup, I mean, what if he left. How would you go about your everyday live with kids/school/finances. Know that things will be taken care of in the event you'd have to handle it on your own.

Thanks for your support, i'm trudging along, reading every good book suggested on these boards, :lol I love to read

Wake up each day vowing not to let your H drag you down nor loose another day to his craziness.