Cold differentiation, fusion and stuff.

[Burgbud]

(Cobra)
IMO, if you ever have to tell someone else that you will not tolerate such-and-such behavior, then you are already in deep sh*t, and that is as much your responsibility as the other person’s. Better to track the pulse of the “balance” in the R to be sure the above situations does not develop.

If one is in the mindset I was describing, I very seriously doubt they would "tell" without also doing.

Tracking the pulse of the balance in the R, rather than handling your own end and letting the chips fall, is the tail wagging the dog.