She has gone to the other man for him to fill her needs that you have not been filling. You explode and tell her how wrong she is for doing this. She should be coming to you, you tell her, not to someone else. You are trying to quilt her, because you don't like it. You are challenging her choices, because you don't like them. You are trying to control her, because you don't like not having control. You tell her you are angry at her for trying to find someone that can make her happy. Well why not be that person? Stop playing games with her. You tell her you have changed, but your actions say other wise.
Man H you just don't get it. You have got to gain control over yourself. You have got to stop with the anger, the jealousy, the guilt, the self-pity. Stop with the G*d d*mn backsliding. It is like 1 step forward 2 steps back with you. And for what? So, you can get things of you chest? Oh well. Did it help with your R. Your R is on the fence. You have the tools and the knowledge of what to do and WHAT NOT TO DO. So why keep returning to the WHAT NOT TO DO. Are your plans to drag this out until she wants absolutely nothing to do with you? Because, if you continue with the backslides that is what will happen.
H, I am being hard on you, because I am the same stupid, stubborn ass. That makes the same type of mistakes as you. And I would want you to smack me upside the head like a good friend would do, just like I am doing to you.
“Do you want to be RIGHT or want to be LOVED” “You have to have a life to share a life with someone” “When you stop resisting, you start learning”
