24, no discussion about the D. W was outside in the living room with D and I and we mingle as a family. D was singing and playing with her toy piana and being very talkative. I told W that D is talking a lot more than when she was at the previous daycare and if she noticed anything different about D. In a way, W looked as though I was gonna present the D question to her but I am in no rush to bring up this conversation as to as I already stated I dont want to make a decision that I will regret for the rest of my life. I am firm on this and we do need some time alone and W isnt realizing this.

This is very important to the decisions we need to make and it seems it doesnt have anything to do with the family but for W's individual cause. W has not seen or had read what D does to a family. Being on this support forum, reading atricles here and there, and is an example of what D does, I have educated myself in knowing that initially I wanted a D but it is not so easy for me to make that decision now when I am an integral part of D's life.

I was making that decision simply for my own benefit and didnt cared about our D's feeling not until I came to visit them in Houston last September and spent 10 days with them prior to moving to Missouri. When I returned to Houston in December to ensure the move is smooth, D was so excited to see me again and she cried when I had to leave the same day since I had to drive W's car to Missouri. I picked them up at the airport the following day. D was so happy to see me once more and she settle into her new home without any problems. D was so excited to see the xmas tree I put up and later we wrapped all the gifts. That event was so special to me since I had my family with me for xmas. I could not ask for anything more.

With doing all this, I thought about everything and I said my W doesnt see all the good things I have done for our family. I asked myself if I didnt care one bit for her and our family I would have never looked back. But I did look back and made our family reunited again. Now these events are happening and W is walking out after all I have done for her.

My W never bought any groceries or paid any bills since she moved to Missouri. I fed and provided lodging for her and never asked her to assist as to if she really wanted to she could have asked or she knows where I keep all the bills to be paid. It seems that all along she was on a free ride and now feels that she is independent enough to just leave me and do things for herself.

And W talks about selfishness, this alone is a good example of her selfish behavior.

See the W, Listen to the W, but dont Speak back to the W. Bridle your tongue...