That is to say, the WAS’s infidelity is THEIR problem. They may never own it but it is theirs in its entirety. Once I was able to see it that way and let my W either fix HER problem or not, then I was able to work on my self. Don’t own what’s not yours because you can’t and will drive yourself crazy trying.
...so true. The breakdown of the marriage can be attributable to both people, but turning to an affair is the WAS's problem. They have to fix it on their own...you cannot do it for them. Some, like my XH, cannot do it. They will choose a life of running and hiding from themselves rather than taking that good hard look in the mirror and say I have to change...I'M THE REASON I'M NOT HAPPY...IT'S TIME I QUIT BLAMING EVERYONE ELSE.
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