Hi CMNM!! How are you?? I have little time but wanted to respond to your post. How courageous that you apologised to your DH!! You know... I did aswell. And you know something else....?? He really appreciated it...after a while (when it became apparent that my communication was much better which made the apology even more sincere.)
About your question....
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I think one of the problems is that you had to hear it from an outsider.
I sense he felt hurt in his pride that it had to come from a different person to get through to you instead of him, your beloved husband!! (Next time (in a different sitch), tell him that you were thinking and recapturing what he has been telling you and saw this pattern which you want to change - keep the credits to yourself and a little to him )
I felt guilt aswell. Did not mean I do not love myself because I feel that guilt can actually be a good thing when you use it in a positive way. It motivated me to change for the best! You ready to roll up your sleeves and work at this thing?? I bet you are!!! You CAN and WILL do this with flying colours!!
And you know something else....?? He really appreciated it...after a while (when it became apparent that my communication was much better which made the apology even more sincere.)
