H doesnt make me feel slutty after doing what he wants me to do. I guess its just how I perceive it to be. Yes I agree H in many ways is very immature and knowing his childhood history I know whre it stems from and this is why he is very insecure. A long time ago when we started to takd marriage counseling w/ our pastor & before we stated any of our promblems the pastor picked up on one thing very quickly and on the first session he told me that H was the type who needed A LOT of TLC. I didnt understand at the time just why. H needs to admit to his promblems first of all & then see a IC.
During our enlightening talk about sexual preferences I tolf H I was willing to do mostly anyhting to please him but that he had to learn to compromise an many ways in the M. I told him my ll was QT but that he had to plan it sometimes including the babysiting and make the inniative.I said it goes both ways you give QT & I gladly do this too. Our M has been very one sided w/ me putting in too much effort. I notice this to be common on all of us LBSrs.
