LOL! You know I can follow you cause that's all I get to hear about at work and some of it is funny if you've got an inkling of an idea what DLL, or an API or a debugger or a hook is.
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A species whose females are turned on hearing someone like cac4 go into technical detail even if they can't follow it, much the way that human females like to watch human males perform physical feats they can't match. A species in which chromosphere's brain would cause women to throw themselves at him regularly and he'd have a good shot at having dozens of illegitimate children out there somewhere building spaceships, getting laid like rock stars, and breeding like rabbits. Unfortunately, here on Earth Newton was a virgin when he died, a disturbing fraction of our best minds today don't do much better, and we're stuck with groundcars a full hundred years after the Wright Brothers' achievement and we're burning the same fuel that John D. Rockefeller got rich off of.
Hey! That's not the women's fault - the guys are the ones that like to pick girls with a lower IQ than themselves. They hate being outsmarted by girls. When I was at uni I was engaged in a debate with a guy in the bar, when I made a point he didn't have an answer to he said "I hate brainy girls" WTF?!? What did he expect to meet at uni for chrissakes. I for one am quite turned on by brainy guys and I am more especially turned on by brainy guys that CAN communicate their deeply esoteric corner of the technical universe with the rest of us.
Plus why do geeks never work out or wear decent clothes? It would help.
Sometimes I feel like software engineers and other deeply technical guys are engaged in a form of mental MB. They actually don't want to share the mental joys of what they are doing with anyone else. It's done for their own private excitement. You don't get that with philosophers, artists, musicians, poets, writers etc.
You're right, geeks do need to use the right brain more. It's more fun if you do.
In regards to the "how was your day?" conversation. That is generally code for "Ok, I'm being polite by asking about your day but what I really need to do is vent about mine". The way good male conversational style generally goes, is different to good female style. Girls are very empathetic and make noises like "oh I know", "uh-huh", "yeah, I hate when that happens". But sometimes that can get to be a bit of a pity party. I like guys, because most guys never let you wallow in self-pity and they generally do that by using humour.
So Chrome and others, next time your W says "how was your day?" you say "not too bad, how was yours?" and then when she starts venting about this and that, instead of trying to fix just listen and then steer the conversation gently round to a more humourous way of looking at it. The humour will relieve the tension and she will feel listened too and cheered up. Trying to look for the funny side ought to keep you engaged and less bored too
Wierdly though in the hap household it seems like it's generally the other way around. H is the one who likes to engage in a pity party and I'm the one trying to see the funny side. He hates it though, he thinks I'm being too frivolous about a serious situation
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
