Now I've done it

[nephartiti]

She nurses exclusively. I can't trust the OW groundrules thing. He still won't openly admit there is an OW. (eyeroll). If I tell him not to do something, he does exactly that. My toddler still nurses, but very little. He does not like to be away from me at all. He's seen dad 2 times in 3 1/2 weeks. I tried to stay one night at my brother's and he had a hard time. I leave for a few hours and he's a mess. His world has been turned upside down. Now he's going to be away from me and in a strange environment?

No no no. I am going to "stroke" him a bit and encourage a special day trip. Maybe I'll leave the overnight thing open for S2. I have suggested H come here while I run errands. He ignored it. I don't think he's respecting the no OW rule. Just a gut feeling.

He's isolated his family. I don't think he's going where he says he is, but I can't question and I can't check on him. I have to trust the untrustable and hope to God he is not so out of his mind that he would put our beautiful children in an inappropriate situation.

The fact that he is even suggesting this after not even calling them for so long raises red flags to me. Why not take them to the park for a few hours a day or something?

Actually, I think he is testing me. I say "you can see the kids anytime" and he says "well how about the weekend" because he KNOWS it is unreasonable. I am cornered. I have to say no and then he will be able to blame ME for him not being able to see his kids. He will be able to say that I am selfish and controlling and blah blah blah. What a butthead (now I sound like a teenager)!

I'm going to use Morgan's line. Thanks, Morgan. It is well said. I have to take a leap of faith as to where they go. My kids are too small to tattle.