For some reason I never saw your post concerning Schlessinger. It does sound like she talks out of both sides of her mouth, but that doesn't change the message in her book. I do agree with CAC that Schlessinger may use some outdated examples in her book, but they are not that out dated. There are lots of SAHM moms where we live. I don't know whether they are happy or not.
I also withhold judgment on her recommendations to women on how to better treat an H. I think there are plenty of ways to address the problems in a specific M, so each woman can decide for herself.
But I do think her explanation of how men feel is right on, right down to the fact that men can also be their own worst enemy. Men too often don't give a straight honest answer to women about how they feel. They are afraid to hurt the woman's feelings and have been taught by other women not to do this.
We men know we do this, yet we do it anyway. Women know we do this yet they continue to exploit and perpetuate this system. It's like a massive unspoken contract. So regardless of whether Schlessinger is a hypocrite or not, I still believe fully in her message.
