HS... I should know that movie, but not sure I did ever see it. Could have and just don't remember it. I looked it up online and it didn't spark my memory... will have to rent it sometime. What a hoot! That is pretty funny you thought of that.
I'm trying to give my H credit for being capable of more, as he has shown an ability to put more effort in. Just not sure yet if it's going to be enough for me, but finding that I still feel like I need to continue to put myself out there if I want to get anything back. Change takes time and work. He is starting to admit where he falls short and seems to be working on some stuff, but still only doing that on his own... which is not such a different approach. I tend to think that means he isn't serious enough, but maybe that isn't fair of me. I'm working on communicating what I need without being pushy. We've been getting somewhere I think.
Trip... I hear ya. I am trying to approach the openness and honesty issue carefully. I'm trying to be smarter about how I deal with this. H was honest with me when I asked him if he had worked that day, he just didn't reveal what he had been doing and I didn't ask. I figure there's no need to go down that cheeseless tunnel... ask him something that he would be tempted to lie about. I don't need to be lied to. He and I both know he has trouble being honest (with me, he would say ). I'm taking things slowly with this, because I'm trying to avoid falling into the old traps. I figure I will learn very soon whether he is truly wanting to be honest and open in a R.
So, I sent a text to H letting him know that I thought about his invitation to go surfing and that it sounded like fun. Told him I looked forward to hanging out with him again. He texted right back, saying cool but also that he hurt his back at work today. Said he stayed on shift but it was pretty sore and he hoped it would heal fast so we could "go surfing or something soon". Said he'd call me in the morning to let me know how it was doing. Sorry, but this just sounds like he's setting himself up to give himself an out. I have also noticed that he continues to always work an angle to be the one holding the ball. My response was simply "Right on. Sorry to hear about your back."
Me: 37 M: 14 yrs Separated 10/06; Filed for D 12/07 Life is good.
). I'm taking things slowly with this, because I'm trying to avoid falling into the old traps. I figure I will learn very soon whether he is truly wanting to be honest and open in a R.
Sorry, but this just sounds like he's setting himself up to give himself an out. I have also noticed that he continues to always work an angle to be the one holding the ball. My response was simply "Right on. Sorry to hear about your back."
