It isn't about replying to him. It is about the way you see yourself. It is about the fact that what you see is what you don't have. That is why I quoted you in my last post. You have to change that. Stop thinking about your H and what you have to do there and start thinking about becoming a positive person. You have to change yourself before you can affect change in others.
Read this book. Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting by Lynn Grabhorn.