TGF, I do not have any answers for you. I will be honest I did not read through you post thoroughly (I have a bad problem being able to read long posts, no problem writing them, but reading them for me is a challenge, sorry) or am I very familiar with all the details of your sit. But, I will offer up this to you.
I have received the exact same comments from my wife.
Too much damage has occurred. It is to late. Too many years have past. I will always care for you, because you are the father of my S. I don't want to hurt you. You are a really good person. You are a great dad. You deserve some one better then me. I don't want to try any more. I am not ILWY. I am not attracted to you etc. etc. etc. Buuuuutttt, I am fine with how we are living, I am fine with our current situation, I am fine living like roommates.
Well I am not and was not fine with it, so, I ended it. I was tired of trying to DB a roommate and not a W. I do not regret pushing for our S. Don't get me wrong I miss living with her and seeing her everyday, but I do not for one second miss being her roommate and house keeper/butler etc.
“Do you want to be RIGHT or want to be LOVED” “You have to have a life to share a life with someone” “When you stop resisting, you start learning”
