Lessons from a former WAS

[christarn]

I would take that as a positive...at least in my mind...she said not ready yet!! off to Ireland...still haven't decided wether to call or not...I think I will know when I am there!! take care of you...stay strong, as I will do the same!!

[Nugget]

TGF, I do not have any answers for you. I will be honest I did not read through you post thoroughly (I have a bad problem being able to read long posts, no problem writing them, but reading them for me is a challenge, sorry) or am I very familiar with all the details of your sit. But, I will offer up this to you.

I have received the exact same comments from my wife.

Too much damage has occurred. It is to late. Too many years have past. I will always care for you, because you are the father of my S. I don't want to hurt you. You are a really good person. You are a great dad. You deserve some one better then me. I don't want to try any more. I am not ILWY. I am not attracted to you etc. etc. etc. Buuuuutttt, I am fine with how we are living, I am fine with our current situation, I am fine living like roommates.

Well I am not and was not fine with it, so, I ended it. I was tired of trying to DB a roommate and not a W. I do not regret pushing for our S. Don't get me wrong I miss living with her and seeing her everyday, but I do not for one second miss being her roommate and house keeper/butler etc.

[thegoodfight]

Thanks for your thoughts, Nugget. I am going to give her a lot of space on the weekend, and I agree I am not going to live as roomates, forever. I do feel she deserves some time, I just think I have to detach a little, so that when she starts making plans with whomever, I don't blow it and go ballistic.

Self preservation