Our husbands shot that theory all to hell didn't they?
Put mine in that group too. Don't you think this has something to do with the type of person OW is?
In my case the OW divorced her second husband to be with my H. She had a daughter by first husband and a son by second H. Obviously family means nothing to her. They are disposable like everything else in the world.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
In my case the OW divorced her second husband to be with my H. She had a daughter by first husband and a son by second H. Obviously family means nothing to her. They are disposable like everything else in the world.
She sounds like a real winner. Maybe we should have a contest to see which OW is the worst. I think that I might win. Here's my list... 1. Conned XH into giving her $ for a down payment on her house after he knew her a month 2. Convinced him to move 3 hours away to escape his life 3. Convinced him to stay with her after he told me he wanted to reconcile 4. Told him that she would marry him after knowing him 2 months 5. "Accidentally" got pregnant when she had been on the pill for 10 years. 6. I could keep going, but I don't want to hijack Olive's thread any more than I already did.
lonely, we have something in common. My H has mostly refused to move out ("My house too" argument), but yet continued to see and call OW. We have finally gotten so bad that he is moving out, supposedely next weekend. I still want him to live with me, but canNOT live like this anymore. If he wanted to stay, I would only allow that to happen with certain guidelines. And seeing as how he has ignored all my other guidelines, I am only assuming he'll leave.
Are you willing to move out if he won't? I guess Yoyo's H and my XH moved out on their own. Maybe there is someone else that can give you advice on how to handle him.
What about legal separation? My XH finally followed through with the divorce, but I was to the point that I was going to do it because he was not going to change and I just couldn't live like that anymore.
I still want him to live with me, but canNOT live like this anymore.
In 11/06 I told my XH "I want to work on the marriage, but I cannot live here with you like this". In 6/07, I told him "I told you things had to change and they haven't and I just can't do this anymore". I gave him 7 months to figure it out and he could not and would get away from OW for one day, so that was it for me. There really does come a point when enough is enough.
LO, sending positive thoughts to you. It was going on so well. Do the 48 hour cool down and think. May be it is time for him to move out, whether he likes it or not. If you really know you cannot stand this flip flop anymore, it is time for him to see how life really is with OW and he can decide on his own. Gotta go. Will write later. Take care. HUGSSSSS!!!!!
No more convo last night when H got home. That was fine since I was too tired to talk anyway. I'm sure that he and the ow got a good laugh about my primal sobbing vm message anyway.
I got the usual this morning.. trying to hold my hand, hugging, trying to kiss me passionately. Stuff I used to see as positives but now see them only for what they are - manipulation.
Something has got to change. This is truly driving me off the edge of sanity. Here's the thing - almost no one knows about this. My family has no clue. If I move out, it really will be over at that point. They will never forgive him or speak to him. I am about 80% there anyway..
