Thanks Hope. I know I can make it on my own more easily than he can make it on his own. But, then again he won't have to.
He does want it his way and I just can't live like that. I wish I could be gone when he comes home (who knows maybe he'll stay w/ow) but I have to be responsible for a child. After listening to my CRAZY message, it even saddens me that he didn't care enough to call back. It was THAT BAD!!
I know I can make it on my own more easily than he can make it on his own. But, then again he won't have to.
You will make it on your own, and he is going to have to also. Even if he stays with OW, it is a lonely road. Your life can only get better...even if it is without him...I'm telling you that from first hand knowledge. He is dragging you down...he is pulling you on the rollercoaster ride from hell. For your own well-being you have to get off.
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He does want it his way and I just can't live like that.
...and you shouldn't have to. What are your next steps? What do you want?
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After listening to my CRAZY message, it even saddens me that he didn't care enough to call back. It was THAT BAD!!
He is very mixed up. You cannot take anything that he does or says to heart.
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"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
Olive, I'm so sorry. It seemed things were going well for you. I agree with everything Hope said. She is right only he can change him. Concentrate on yourself. Detach. It's the only thing that has gotten me through this.
Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Next steps.. good question. I've been mulling that over . He said that I've made it very obvious that I want him to stop speaking to the ow and he is not willing to do that.
Sooooo.... am I ready for the big d?? Maybe.. I am that worn out. I think it's time to get out. You're right Hope.. he's dragging me down and I can't live like this anymore.
If I have no rights just because I'm his wife as he says, then why even "act married" or even live in the same house? I guess if I have no rights just because I'm his wife then, I can go out and date whoever I want as well... Does that theory work here??
One year at the end of Sept. is when it started. He told me about it after it was going on for three months. So, I've been living in this he!! for 9 months where I am being blamed for his poor choices. He has refused to move out this whole time which I think has made it worse for me emotionally. I guess I don't detach very well do I?? Well, it sucks for us all no matter how you look at it.
He said that I've made it very obvious that I want him to stop speaking to the ow and he is not willing to do that.
Then, I think it is time for another plan. You can not continue living like this. Are you still living in the same house?
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I guess if I have no rights just because I'm his wife then, I can go out and date whoever I want as well... Does that theory work here??
You are better than this and you know it. Two wrongs don't make a right. You need to work on yourself. You need to find your strength...do whatever you need to do to do this...I think that is the only way you are going to get through this.
