I've been replaced

[Yoyowife]

PW,
My H moved out in Oct.'06. We have two teenaged DDs. He filed for D in June '07. I haven't heard anything else from his lawyer since then, so I really don't know what is going on. I'm not pushing though, I've always heard that time is your friend. OW is his secretary so they see each other daily.

As far as detachment, working to get them back home I don't know if it works, because he is still out of the house. But I will tell you this. It has helped me become stronger. I'm not walking on eggshells like I was when he was around. I finally came to the conclusion all I could do was to work on my ownself and become stronger and not so dependent on him. Recently I've seen him a couple of times and he was very pleasant. I'm not getting my hopes up, I'm just taking it as it is. Detach for your ownself.

My best advice for you right now is to have minimal contact with him until some of the pain has lessened. It seemed like everytime I saw him or talked to him, it tore me up inside and I wanted to pursue more. Don't pursue or plead, it certainly doesn't get you anywhere. Just be pleasant when you do have to see him and make converations short and sweet. I'm certainly not saying that the pain goes away, but it does lessen with time.

Hugs, Yoyo