I agree I need to set boundaries. I have none. I am where he wants me when he wants me how he wants me. He says jump and I say how high. I know he has mental issues and that is 90% of our issue. Our marriage was great before he had his two accidents which left him injured for life and since that in 2005 he hasn't been the man I married.
His only thing he says bad about me is that I did not give him enough sympathy during his recovery and it hurt him to the point he cant get past it.
I am not saying i am the perfect wife but... I love sex as much as any man and if he didn't initiate it I did daily. I let him go out whenever he wanted with never questioning and always supporting him having friends and alone time. I do all of the housework and that includes the yard work, laying 1600 square foot of tile in our home, and hanging drywall with him in our new kitchen. He says I am perfect in every way except I wasn't loving enough during that time. I just don't get how that can be justification to destroy this family.
Sorry just venting...
The one thing that scares me is he has the I don't want you but I don't want anyone else to have you mentality and I am very worried about what he will do if I even go out with friends.
Today when I talked with him he was cordial. Just called one more time to say he wont be here for his night with the kids tonight. Just one more disappointment.
I think boundaries and space are going to be the next goal of mine to get taken care of.
M 32 H 39 SS 15, SD 12, S11, S9, D7, D6, D4 E/A 02/06 WAS 03/06 RH 05/06 On 07/07 told me he wants to leave again. On 08/11/07 Walked out again.
People say "When God closes a door he opens a window." They forget to tell you "It is hell in the hallway!"
